Comparing Yourself With Others

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In today’s world of social media and the Internet, we have instant access to images of other people’s lives, making it easy and subtle to get into the habit of comparing ourselves to others.

Analysts claim that an average user spends 2.5 hours on social networks and has a habit of comparing himself with others. This daily comparison makes us unhappy and leads to a bad mood and negative thoughts, which in turn causes anxiety.

Also, comparing yourself to others is unrealistic and unfair because you’re likely focusing on someone else’s best points compared to your weakest points.

“A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it, it just blooms,” — Japanese wisdom.

Comparing yourself to others can bring a lot of pain and suffering. And it never occurs to you in the process that you can offer something great. But when you start copying others in their style and personality traits, it is unlikely to bring satisfaction either.

Every person on this planet is unique and has unique strengths and talents. When something is unique, by definition it cannot be compared to anyone or anything else.

Focus on yourself and let go of what others are doing and achieving. So you will find liberation, and you will understand that

The only person you should strive to be better than is the person you were yesterday.

The more you focus on your own abilities and achievements, the more you will love yourself. And when you learn to truly love yourself, comparison and anxiety will most likely disappear.


  • The next time you start comparing yourself to someone else, pause and say to yourself, “I’m focusing on my own talents and strengths, and I have something to share with the world.”
  • Then take your notebook and make a list of your strengths. Keep adding to this list over time.
  • Notice your successes. To boost your self-esteem, notice all the positive moments in your life. Get a special folder or notebook where you can copy or forward all the good things that were said to you, for which you were thanked. In moments of anxiety, against the background of comparing yourself with others, open such a folder and reread the words of people who are really important to you.



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Taras Chuiko

Taras Chuiko

Traveller, photographer, investor, and software engineer from Ukraine. Instagram: @taraschuiko